I've had some people come up to me and say or comment in the past that they wish they had my life or that my life looked so perfect. From social media, it can look like life is easy. Filled with happiness + no worries, just so carefree. While, yes, I am very happy, and I count my blessings every day, I have those days that I state above. Some are so heart-wrenchingly hard. Which is okay. But it made me think about the world we live in, the world us women try to live up to...
It is so easy to get wrapped up in glimpses of life. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, even people-watching in public - all culprits of comparison and belief that there is a perfect life. PSA: there isn't. It is oh so effortless to get on social media, observe a couple from faraway, dream of Hallmark movies and write out their lives in our mind with our own storyboard (or Hallmark's storyboard). The perfect family, the perfect job, or hair, or wardrobe, or relationship... envy can seep through sometimes without you even noticing. It's a silent killer.
It's so important to remember that we are all imperfect. No one lets you in on their bad days. Every person is going through something - a break-up, anxiety, the struggles of beginning motherhood, losing a loved one, low self-esteem, etc. It may even be that they are just off today or this week - being in creative ruts, having a hard time at work, wanting to pursue a dream they don't know how to or can't. It isn't always holly jolly, rainbows + unicorns.
A snapshot can hide so much. Your favorite blogger, influencer, friend, can make it look like they live on cloud nine 24/7. They are just as real as you are though. They have bad days. And, it's okay that they don't show that. But, that isn't what our minds should construct in what makes us feel better about ourselves. First off, we should completely be happy for them and cheer them on. There is something so pure about building others up. Don't take they're happy moments or advice that they are willing to share and let it spark anger or doubt within yourself. It's what the enemy wants.
You have to remember who you are. The person that God made you to be. It's something I have to constantly remind myself of. You have to come to terms with who you are in the eyes of the Lord. And, that nobody is perfect, despite social media or the face they put on in public. If you are feeling a tinge of jealousy in any aspect of your life, it's an alert that maybe there are insecurities you need to give to Him to overcome. Comparison is such a harsh weapon. It can completely make us have second thoughts about ourselves. Planting who you are in a never-changing Savior who will always love you can do wonders. But sometimes that is easier said than done. Whenever you are having those times, literally stop where you are and pray. Pray for Him to take away those self-doubt, envious feelings. Pray for Him to help you love who you are. Pray for Him to take this pressure off of feeling like you have to be perfect in every aspect of your life. Pray for Him to give you the light of seeing the beauty you are through His eyes.